'What has motherhood taught you? - The Freeman

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I was asked by The Freeman Newspaper on what motherhood has taught me and this was my answer which was posted in their Facebook  page.  :)



"For years, during Mother's Day, I always prayed that the next year I'd finally get to be greeted, 'Happy Mother's Day!.' For years, I cried. And the all knowing answered my relentless prayers. I was blessed with Trystyn last July 2017 .

What has the almost three years of being a mom taught me?
It taught me about selfless love.

I’ve given up so many things for Trystyn: My body (oh, you should see my flabs and my stripes), my space (I can’t even do Number two in peace), my time (oh how I miss going out until the wee hours of the morning), sleep (28 months of breastfeeding did not allow me to sleep straight throughout the night). I may have lost some parts of my former life but I’d put my son’s welfare and needs over my own.

Before composing my answer to the question, 'What has motherhood taught you?,' my son decided to sleep on top of me. We were lying down in front of the a/c and the second he laid on top of me, he dozed off. My legs began to get painful because of the cold but I endured it so that the 'lil dude can continue to sleep soundly. Motherhood is an act of being self-less in more ways than one.

Motherhood has also taught me about strength, about perseverance.
Motherhood is a consistent dedication. The last two years had been tough. It was exhausting specially since I had to go back to work six weeks postpartum and we had no house help. I had to be home before 5:30 p.m. or the Lola would get mad (since she took care of my son while we were at work). I’d wash and sterilize his bottles then take over taking care of Trystyn. When I had deadlines, I would let him sleep and then continue working 'till the wee hours of morning, doze off a little, and then wake up when he woke up. It was (still is) overwhelming, but I also realized how strong of a woman, of a mom, I am to be able to do all these. There were a lot of times when I found myself crying, but then I go on knowing all the things I am doing is for him and for his future.

Motherhood is selfless love but is also self love. How can you pour out of an empty cup, right? Being a mother also means taking care of you. I realized how important 'me times' are for my sanity. I made sure I had an hour or two of 'me time' once or twice a month. And as much as we can, my husband and I try to go out on quick dates. Motherhood is tough, and mommies need to rejuvenate, too.

Motherhood also gave me a deeper respect and love for my mother. Motherhood is hard, but she made it look easy even with four strong-willed kids.
❤

I’m still a newbie to this motherhood thing. I’m sure there would be more (and tougher) challenges in the years to come, but I am ready to face them all for the love of my little one (or little ones God willing)."

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